Love is in the air, or is it?... 

Do you have a busted Man-picker?

Valentine’s Day. If you’re in love, it’s a great holiday. If you’re not, it’s not so great. If you’re plagued by thoughts of what you did wrong and what you could have done differently in love, then read on. Maybe you are in a relationship, and you’re ready to move it to the next level. If you are, read on. In just a moment, I’m going to give you the secrets of finding that special love⎯maybe your soul mate⎯and keeping him once you have found him. 

But before we do that, I’m going to share a story with you that is pretty embarrassing.

Are you a serial dater? I was!

Love Coach Suzanne Muller
I'm Suzanne Muller and I was a serial dater for eight long years. Now I'm engaged to be married to the man of my dreams! 

But before that, I experienced the whole world of what the dating scene has to offer: I was stood up, cheated on and stalked. I was broken up with over text messaging and voice mail, and even on the delivery end of a few broken hearts. I read books, talked to my girlfriends, dated online, really gave my heart. 

Despite all my hard work I wasn’t getting anywhere. In all honesty, I had to come face to face with the reality that I had developed some habits that just weren’t working. Listen to my story, then I'll tell you what I did to TURN THINGS AROUND!

A few years ago, I was in an exclusive dating relationship—or so I thought. One day, as I was sitting in a business meeting, I received an email from a stranger. The email said that the man I was dating had been her boyfriend for the last year. She had also copied several other women on the email after hacking into his computer to inform all of us of his actions and behavior. I was devastated and shocked when I learned the man I had been dating was cheating on me. Things like that didn’t happen to me. Not only was he cheating on me, but he was doing so with at least four other women. When he confirmed all this, the news rocked me to my core.

Loveable book cover
Has something like that ever happened to you? This is what I like to call having a Busted Man-Picker! When you’ve come out of an unhealthy relationship or been blind-sided yourself and you question your ability to choose a good partner.
I will show you how to learn to trust yourself again and regain your confidence in picking great and wonderful men to be in relationship with. 

You’ll also learn things like: 
  • The reason women don’t feel capable of having a healthy relationship that can last. I want you to know to your bones that you can fully love a man, that he can completely love you, and that you will love and honor yourself, first and foremost.
  • How by complaining to your single friends, you are only sabotaging your chances of finding love
  • How asking for what you want can get you what you want
  • How to disrupt and dispose of habits that are left-over from your previous relationships.
Now, I want to share with you what my reader Sarah had to say about my new book: Loveable - 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship

"…With the help of Suzanne and her book 
Loveable I’ve started to de-clutter my brain of my negative beliefs about dating, relationships and love, and my gremlins are getting quieter and quieter. Whenever they try to raise their voice I pick up the book and reread one of the chapters.  After some sessions and shortly after reading the book for the first time I met someone very special and it’s been going incredibly wonderful, so I’m very grateful to Suzanne and her invaluable lessons!” – Sarah

What if you could learn the skills to maintain, nurture and sustain a fulfilling relationship? How would this know-how impact your confidence?

A New, Revolutionary Approach to Dating

You are busy and your time is precious, which is why I put together this new approach. This is not a “how to date” book, although it will give you lots of ideas about how to meet someone, how to interact better with a man, and most of all, how to be a woman men want to be in a partnership with.

What if you could exude more of your natural & divine feminine energy and be completely desirable? If this has gotten you curious, then read on.

Date the men of your dreams…
I’m going to give you a few simple steps to find the man of your dreams. And you’re not just going to find him. You’re going to be able to select him from the men of your dreams who you will be dating once you’ve learned the simple steps to having a loving and fulfilling relationship in your life. 

I have developed the Loveable methods over not only years of dating, but also years of talking with hundreds of women just like you as a relationship and love coach. My clients have seen amazing results in their lives. Wouldn’t you want to be one of the people who has used these methods and had them work? Here’s a story about someone who has found love using the Loveable: 21 Practices to finding love.

Donna’s story

“About 20 years ago, I married the man I thought I’d be with for the rest of my life. After 14 years of marriage and two beautiful children, my husband announced he was unhappy, and he left. This wasn’t what I signed up for; what about ‘til death do us part? So now what? I’m forty and alone and know no other life. 

“After a couple of relationships that were just not right, I contacted Suzanne. With her techniques, I actually began to look forward to going on a date. I started going out dancing, and one night while dancing with an attractive man, I found him, the man of my dreams. Something about this guy was magical, and we were married 6 months later!”

Dating seems so simple, and yet....

You are at the point where you’d really like to have someone special in your life, yet dating can feel like such a chore. Do you want to make sure your dating “counts” and you have a great time? And are you sitting there thinking about some of your “dating disasters”? 

It can seem like dating just goes on and on, and you can start to believe that you will NEVER find your soul mate. 

If you have been wondering, “Why isn’t there a manual to help me find a man that wants me for who I am, as I am?” then wonder no more. Here is a methodology that can help you find and keep the relationship of your dreams! 

I want to share with you what I learned about the most important ingredients you need to have a great relationship.

The 3 Top Ingredients of a Great Relationship

Being in a loving and fulfilling relationship of your dreams⎯for anyone, anywhere⎯always includes these three very important ingredients:
  • Don’t let your past get in the way of having love
  • Ask for what you want
  • Fix your busted man-picker
Tip #1 – Don’t let what happened in the past run your life Today
I recently spoke with a friend who was frustrated with his girlfriend and ready to break up with her. Why? She keeps talking about how things were with her former boyfriend and what they did during their relationship. He doesn’t feel she’s present and he wonders when he will be treated like the special topic of the conversation.

A man wants you to be interested in what is important to him. In short, if you can’t keep your attention with a man, then he’s not the man for you. And YOU CAN’T keep your attention on ANY man if you are carrying your past relationship problems into your current date!

Tip #2 Let a man make you Happy! Ask for What You Want!
Have you ever gotten the feeling that your man doesn’t know how to make you happy? It’s because we women sometimes keep our men guessing. We think, “He should just know what I want.” Listen carefully: He doesn’t have a clue! And guess what? It’s not because he’s not doing his job. It’s because you’re not doing yours! And just what is your job, you may be asking. This is it, really simply. 

You have to tell him what you want. Make it clear. Tell him what is important to you, what you want and how you want it. Something we women overlook all the time is that men really do want to make us happy. Don’t leave your man guessing what you want out of a relationship so that he can overlook it, missing every opportunity to fulfill your dreams. You MUST tell him what is important to you.

From Loveable
You cannot tell a man half of what will make you happy. You cannot be vague about what will make you happy. You have to be clear and direct, yet kind. Can you see why it’s important?

On page 27 of Loveable, I give you the 3 steps to do this!

Tip #3 How to Fix The Busted Man-Picker 
When someone asks us, “What kind of man are you looking for?” we rattle off a list of qualities that we think would do the trick for us. Does this sound familiar? You may say something like: "He should be tall, handsome, drive a Porsche and love to travel.” After you hear about this tip, you’re going to want to toss that list out! 

As you think about the type of man you want to spend the rest of your life with, put your attention on yourself for a moment and ask yourself, “As a woman, what kind of man could make me feel fulfilled for a lifetime?” I call this new perspective your “fulfillment list.” Only you know what will fulfill you. I guide you, step-by-step, in digging deeper and being specific about what will truly fulfill you. No one knows better than you what it is you really want. I help you tell the truth to yourself about that.

The women who create their fulfillment lists find that they make more quality connections than they did before. They’re now meeting men who are really more in the ballpark of what they really want. 

These are some of the most important ingredients for your future relationship, and this is a good starting point. But they are not the only ones. In Loveable, I give you 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship. 

The 21 practices in this book are short, simple, to the point, easy to apply… and they work! I tried them myself and got tremendous results in my relationship. If you’re disillusioned, disappointed, or cynical and resigned about finding a healthy romantic relationship, Loveable will help you see the dating world from 21 new perspectives and show you how to take 21 giant steps toward lasting love….” – Alice

There’s More Than Meets the Eye

So, you think this is great? Sure it is! However there’s more to it than meets the eye. It takes real practice to love yourself, get over your past and ask for what you want. Believe me, I know what it takes. I dated for more than 10 years and had things not work out in almost every horrible situation. I’ve been cheated on, broken up with over voice mail and text messages, and felt terrible about myself.

Then I became a real student of love and relationships and began looking for the practices that would make the real difference in relationships. I found many practices and began using them. Today I live with the man of my dreams!

Let Your Loveable Nature Stand Out

It is true that every woman has a loveable nature. However, we can easily take on habits that conceal, protect, or otherwise obscure our loveable nature. Looking back, I see that without these practices, I would have never successfully connected with the wonderful man I have in my life today.

I Want You to Have YOUR Loving and Fulfilling Relationship

If you want to go through all the research, hard work, and heartache I did to figure out what makes real differences in relationships, you certainly can do that! However, I think you would appreciate saving yourself several years of painful trial and error. So, I have taken my lessons and put them in a new book for you! ~ Loveable – 21 Practices for Being in a Loving and Fulfilling Relationship

Why buy Loveable? With your ever-growing, busy life, you may have to adjust the way you think and how you select a “healthy” man for a relationship
  • Be smarter about who you invest time and energy in. 
  • Learn how to make dating work for you. 
  • Honor and love yourself. 
  • Increase your confidence exponentially.

Give Yourself the Gift of Loveable

The AudioBook of Loveable - 21 Practices for Being in a Loving and Fulfilling Relationship is now Available
The audio book version of Loveable is read to you by me, the author, Suzanne Muller. Why have the audio version? Some people learn from the written word and some people learn by hearing things. I want you to have both versions so you can listen to Loveable while you’re driving or exercising so you can really internalize these important practices and attract the love of your life. Or expand the love that is already there! Have some fun with it! You can listen to the audio version of Loveable while you’re on a hike in the woods, luxuriating in a nice bath, or just hanging out around the house. 

It is a great way to go over the practices again and again to make them habits in your life. Then you can sit with the book itself in the coffee shop or your favorite chair at home and write out the exercises for all the chapters!

AND There's More! For a Limited Time...
Order Little Book of Big Love with Loveable and get three special bonuses!
Little Book of Big Love
My good friend David Lazaroff has written the perfect companion to Loveable - 21 Practices for Being in a Loving and Fulfilling Relationship, the Little Book of Big Love - 50 Ways to Express and Acknowledge Love with Words.

The Little Book of Big Love gives you:

  • Secrets to Expressing and Acknowledging Love
  • Secrets to having your love heard and received!
  • Learn the secrets of having your love understood!
Here is a secret about the nature of love that is explained in Little Book of Big Love: There is one overwhelmingly popular phrase used to express love: “I love you!” The problem is that we all have grown up using this single phrase and different people can mean very different things by these three words.

The Problem with “I Love You”

It’s TRUE! When you tell someone, “I love you,” they do not hear it newly, as you mean it, but THEY hear it in the old way they’ve always heard “I love you.”

The problem with “I love you,” is that “love” used in this way is a verb. As a verb, we all have our own idea of how an action is properly taken. This leaves little room to hear an action newly. Think about how you already have your idea of the “right” way to wash your clothes, squeeze the tube of toothpaste, or drive a car. Do you notice that your idea of how to love someone is just as stubborn?

The Secret to Being Heard

The GOOD NEWS is that when you know the secret of relating to “love” as a noun, you can see that there are many different styles, textures, and colors of love. When you get practiced at relating to love as something that you can speak of in many different ways, THEN you can express your love for another in a fresh way and be heard exactly as you want to be.
Now that you are ready to take a look at using love as a noun, here are three main aspects of expressing and acknowledging love that are explained in Little Book of Big Love.

Aspect 1: Expressing Your Love for Another

When you want someone to understand your experience of love for them, the key is to focus on your personal experience of love. Do not make it about them. Tell them how their presence causes your heart to beat faster, or your mind to find peace, or your day to go smoother. Do this without expectations of how the other person will react. When you truly want another to understand your love for them, don’t make it conditional, just give them the opportunity to hear and understand you. There's more about this in Little Book of Big Love.

Aspect 2: Acknowledging Another’s Love for You

Just like you want others to understand how you love them, others hope that you will understand their love for you. But how can you deal with their hopes or expectations of reciprocation of love? How can you acknowledge their love when you don’t approve of their actions or don’t feel a great amount of love for them? This can be a serious problem!

There are effective ways of acknowledging another’s love without being trapped into their expectations. Here are a few points to keep in mind:
  • Make your acknowledgment about THEM without inserting your own feelings,
  • Relate to what they do and say more than how you perceive their feelings,
  • Be generous with your acknowledgement and acknowledge the impact of their loving actions.

Aspect 3: Acknowledging Mutual Love

This can be very tricky! You want to have a strong experience of another’s love for you before you acknowledge that love is mutual. Be ready to listen to the other person’s response if they want to clarify something that they see differently than you.
You will get better at this with practice. Later I’ll tell you how you can get good at this kind of acknowledgment of love. But for now, focus on one or more of the following:
  • The universal nature of shared love,
  • The common experiences you share with the other person,
  • Common concerns you share.
Little Book of Big Love introduces you to a new way of seeing, experiencing, expressing, and acknowledging love.

Michelle Voeller, Yoga Studio Owner
Little Book of Big Love helps me explore the many avenues of expressing love. It has helped me communicate how I really feel with people who are close to me. I will be keeping it nearby for my relationships!” - Michelle Voeller, Yoga Studio Owner

17 Ways to express your love for another

When you feel love for another, you want to share it! But, are the people in your life going to understand you when you say, "I love you"? You don't want to be misunderstood again! Contemplate the 17 ways to express your love for another that are in Little Book of Big Love. Use the workspace in the book to build upon the 17 ways and create your own new ways of expressing your love that are perfect for you and match your feelings for the people in your life.

Michelle Marison
“I like when you say, ‘have a physical feeling of love in your chest’. The more you can let me connect my physical sensations with love, the more I am able to feel love while I am reading and really get related to what you are saying. As I read, I re-experience palpable sensations of love in my heart.” – Michelle Marison, Marketing professional

21 Ways to acknowledge another's love for you

There is no magic formula for acknowledging another’s love for you that works in every situation. Still, you want to get your point across even when others are being difficult or resisting hearing you! Even when you don’t feel the same about the other person, you can still leave them feeling acknowledged. So, Little Book of Big Love gives you 21 ways you can try out! Certainly not all of these ways are appropriate to every situation. This is exactly why there are 21 ways for you!

12 Ways to acknowledge mutual love

Does the love with your partner need an elevator to get out of the basement? Or perhaps things are great and you want to use words to carry your mutual love to new heights? These are the juicy ways to bring focus on the true strengths and impacts of being in relationship.

Christina Surretsky, Author and Blogger
“I think you do a great job of expressing the sentiment of love in so many different ways, and you give great explanations for these words. I have nothing to say except just keep going! (For the record, my favorite is “Take my love with you.”)” – Christina Surretsky, Mom, blogger, and author.

Little Book of Big Love has the secrets to having your love heard and understood in the way you mean it.
  • Your love is not just like everyone else's
  • Others don't have feelings just like your feelings
  • Everyone already has their own idea of what "I love you" means
  • You deserve to have your own way to express your love
  • You feel love in different ways for different people
  • You want new ways to let people know how you appreciate their love

Go Beyond "I Love You!"

Everyone already has their own idea of what "I love you" means. You know what it means to you, but do you really know what it means to the people in your life? Do they think it indicates momentary passion or a lifelong commitment? Does "I love you" scare away your friends or the people you want to be close to? Does "I love you" invite more attention than you want it to?

Little Book of Big Love helps you express your love in your own individual way so that others can hear what YOU mean, not just what they already think love means for them.

50 MORE Ways to Express and Acknowledge Love

Little Book of Big Love gives you 50 ways to express and acknowledge love with words. BUT, it does not stop there! Little Book of Big Love is a workbook! Read and contemplate each of the 50 ways and then write your own personal way to express and acknowledge love in the lined workbook pages provided. This makes it easy and convenient to work on your relationships whether you are on a bus, a train, a plane, or curled up on the couch.

3 Special Bonuses!

Order Loveable - 21 Practices for Being in a Loving and Fulfilling Relationship
Little Book of Big Love - 50 Ways to Express and Acknowledge Love with Words
AND get three bonuses:
For a Limited Time, buy Loveable and Little Book of Big Love, and get these  3 Bonuses

Bonus #1: The Audiobook of Loveable - 21 Practices for Being in a Loving and Fulfilling Relationship 

The audio book version of Loveable is read to you by the author Suzanne Muller. Some people learn from the written word and some people learn by hearing things. I want you to have both versions so you can listen to Loveable while you’re driving or while you’re exercising to internalize these important practices that will help you attract the love of your life or expand the love that is already there. Have some fun with it! You can listen to the audio version of Loveable while you’re on a hike in the woods, luxuriating in a nice bath, or just hanging around the house. 

The audiobook of Loveable, valued at $24.95, is a great way to go over the practices again and again to make them habits in your life. Then you can sit in the coffee shop or your favorite chair at home and write out the exercises for all the chapters.

Bonus #2:  Little Book of Big Love - 50 Ways to Express and Acknowledge Love with Words

With this special offer, you will be one of the first to have this audiobook, valued at $14.95, when it is released March 1, 2014.

Bonus #3: Suzanne's Women’s Love & Dating Cheat-Sheet

Not available anywhere else! You will get with this offer a special Women's Love & Dating Cheat-Sheet for you to evaluate your dates! This is something normally available only to my Love-Life Coaching customers.

If you act by February 28, you get Loveable (normally $15.95), with Little Book of Big Love (normally $14.95) for $29.95. PLUS you get 3 FREE bonuses:
  1. Loveable audio version mp3 download (normally $24.95) 
  2. Little Book of Big Love Audio Version mp3 download (normally $14.95) 
  3. Suzanne's Love & Dating Cheat-sheet (normally available only to coaching clients)
If you were to buy the books an audio books separately the cost would be $75.80. But for this Valentine's special, you get EVERYTHING FOR THE LOW, LOW PRICE OF $29.95, a savings of 60 %. This is like getting the audio books and Dating Scorecard for free!

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To your Success in Finding Love, Having Love and Expressing Your Love!

Suzanne Muller
Suzanne Muller
Author, Loveable - 21 Practices for Being in a Loving and Fulfilling Relationship